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Originally Posted by Perna
So, I'm procrastinating with getting "ready" for a party I'm having that's supposed to start in an hour and a half.
My husband and I have "the" Mother's Day party every year for his sons and his ex-wife and her boyfriend and the middle son's wife and the two grandchildren. This year, the ex-wife's boyfriend's birthday is today so she's bringing a cake. Her birthday was a couple days ago and last week was the grandson's sixth. So, we're also celebrating three birthdays.
Did you notice me in there anywhere? I get along with all these people, made my DH get a birthday "gift" for his ex-wife and one for the boyfriend (they have lived together for 8-10 years, the grandchildren call him "grandpa _______" just as they call me "grandma ________") and they live out of town.
I just feel so weird; I'm not the "real" mother, feel a bit like a sham/fraud and am reminded of my wedding where I just sort of wandered around, not "there" but just waiting for the formalities to be over, hating being the center of attention, feeling like people were just being nice to me. I feel like the inverse of that situation, a ghost.
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(((((((((((Perna))))))))))))
Wow, that is really something. I can't rap MY BRAIN around that, god bless YOUR BRAIN.
Gee, you need to change your avatar to a saint with wings. Not only did you marry a man with a family but you joined his family in every way. He must be a very nice person to be able to allow all of his family to remain connected this way. And you are sharing him with all the others that still seem to want to stay attached to him. And he is proud enough and confident enough in you to show them that he has a really good person that he decided to love and cherish for the rest of his life.
So, maybe what you are really celebrating today is not really mothers day but a day where the sense of the word can be celebrated. So, in a way you are in the day, you are connected to someone that is still appreciated hopefully.
If you all get along despite all these strange circumstances well, that is something to celebrate.
You are not really a ghost after all. You just have to take off all the name tags and enjoy the people for who they are if you really like them and they are nice, well, isn't that what mothers always say, "Play nice now, be nice, enjoy"
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