((Perna)) - I agree with Open Eyes excellent post. You really are a saint for being so accommodating over the years. Who's idea is it, to put all the this on your shoulders and to have it on both of you every year? I don't want to plant a bad seed, but I'm wondering where's the sharing? Why can't they take turns and yes you're entitled to question where you're valued in all of this. If you're fine with this arrangement, then bless your soul, but if you're not then you may have to discuss this with your hubby, what changes are in store for next year. I find women primarily have a hard time saying no to family and friends.