I think love for a T and secure attachment to a T are good things. Dependency I am not as thrilled about! I feel attached but dependent, not so much. Does it help at all to know that you can still be attached but not dependent? Maybe that lessens the feeling of loss? I don't think my warm and attached feelings about my T will ever go away, even after I have ended therapy with him. He will always have a place in my heart. I think feeling securely attached can help one still hold the T in their heart and mind after they have terminated therapy. I would not want to do anything to sabotage our connectedness and don't think healing means this must happen. I think as a person grows more secure in their relationship with their T, they may not feel as dependent. And the T and client can work in therapy on developing the client's sense of independence through promoting self worth, helping them take important steps in their life, etc. All those things help the client know they can succeed in life on their own.