It sounds like the issues are complex issues and might require more of an intense discussion than one can be done on-line. You might try talking to a professional or something for a few sessions just to work out what ever the issue is. I have heard that sometimes a person's Employee Assistance program can provide a few free sessions. You might could find some other way to get a professional to talk to for a short period of time.
Otherwise, if I have misunderstood the previous postings. You might could talk to your kids' teachers, couches, pastor or some other trusted friend.