Hi Sanada,

I understand where you are coming from. You have only been here a very short while and just like in real life, it takes time to form relationships here. There are many members here who have trust issues for very good reasons. In that respect, many will have their guard up and it may take time to get to know them and them to get to know you. Please be patient with yourself and the membership in that regard and just be yourself

One of the great things about PC are the tools we have to make "our personal" experience the best it can be. Chat can be a difficult realm for some folks. Sometimes emotions run extremely high and it's so easy to just type out what one is thinking/feeling without having time to process those thoughts or feelings first. I think that can cause difficult times and feelings in the chat rooms. You do have a couple of options in chat to help yourself. Like others have said here, copy and paste the chat to a team member (mod/admin) with your thoughts on why anything that happened was against guidelines. The team will review the situation and act accordingly. The other option is to put a member in the chat room on ignore so you won't see what they are saying and you won't have to be upset by them. Just remember that if you change rooms and that member shows up in the room you have gone to, you will again have to put them on ignore. The ignore feature does not follow to different chat rooms.

One thing I have learned over many years of chatting online is that when someone is in a chat room and seems to be looking for an argument, the absolutely best thing to do is ignore that person. That goes for everyone in the chat room. For these folks are looking for any reaction they can receive (usually negative) and when you take that away from them, they have no one to engage and will stop or leave the chat room. I know it's hard not to engage with a difficult chatter, but it truly is the best thing one can do.

Then there are the forums which, considering how many posts/threads are created each day are extremely safe and supportive. One can also use the ignore function if they find a particular member that irks us for whatever reason. We can also "report" posts/threads that we feel are unsupportive/abusive/against guidelines. The team gets those reports (no members know who reports anything) and will act accordingly. The worst thing a member can do is to report a post for guideline issues and go back and respond to the member you just reported. That too could be considered against guidelines so you will want to be careful with that.

The bottom line is to create your own safe experience here. We all need to learn how to do that and what works best for each of us. I hope you find you have a good experience and I'm glad you are a member here!

Wishing you well