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Originally Posted by rainbow8
granite, I also wish we had a "redo" button to be able to replicate the really good sessions. I wish I could bottle it up. But my T will say "those feelings live inside of you, and you can access them any time." I know her so well by now that I know that's what she'll say!
poetgirl, I wish your T hadn't taken away the hugs. Have you told her it makes it harder for you to ask others for them, and to ask for what you need? I think that is very important for you to discuss, not to get her to change her mind, but to work on those feelings. Does she know how bad you feel about it? I'm sorry. I didn't mean to make you feel bad. I'm surprised at the way my therapy is; I'm still in awe that my T does things I thought weren't "allowed" in therapy.
You, know, one of my former Ts told me that most Ts do not touch their clients, and she discouraged me from looking for one that would. It's not the generally accepted practice, for those with BPD or not, she said. I know that's not going to make you feel any better, but I thought I would point it out. I hope you will accept my hugs too.   |
thank you rainbow......
you didn't make me feel bad; I just still feel bad about the whole thing in general! and I am glad for you in what you have in your T! I didn't mean to detract from your thread here either with my comments, sorry.
yes, I do keep bringing things up with T about the whole thing.......I haven't been able to discuss much though about how I don't feel so much like asking others for hugs or for what I need because I feel so burned still by what T did, but I think she realizes how I feel in some ways from what I have been able to say/write....
yes, she said she generally doesn't touch at all either, except for hugs after emotional sessions.......I don't know why, she doesn't seem to either, she was allowing me hugs after most every session when she hadn't done that for others. And now I don't even get them after intense sessions like others can......I wish she would just allow me to be under the same policy as others and still have that occasional hug if a session was intense! Why do I have to be treated differently......in the opposite extreme as I was before?! that is the sticking point for me......oh well.