Wow, so much good stuff already, this is just what I was hoping for!

@Farmer Girl, Ldy - With my current T, I consider it a boundary crossing (to see the therapist in a public event on purpose) vs. a violation (go into the T's private space - their church or gym vs. my own). She's pretty open about her family information, so if I asked she might say yes. But she'd also talk with me about the WHY or ask why not plan something else? I'm trying to listen to the therapist in my head, and ask these questions.

Her dad has a public profile on Facebook, which is how I know about the event.
Chris, you are right - I would enjoy the art and I'd bring my young daughter to show her - but that's not the primary reason I would want to go. So that's definitely a clear answer.

"maintain the image that your T is yours and yours alone" - this really resonates with me. What if she was drinking too much or got in a fight with her sister while I was there? - ack!

I'm trying to figure out which is bigger - my curiousity, my desire to have an extra special connection with her OR my respect for her as a professional who helps me, and my security in the relationship as it exists w/o this boundary crossing?

I am also trying to create an alternative - no luck on leaving the kids with my SIL but now I'm trying to make plans with my office mate (and I told her why!!).

thanks everyone!!