I'm thinking of confronting my abuser. But the idea scares me because my abuser is in my close family. My brother, 4 years older than me, sexually abused me when I was little. When I was 6 and he was 10, it started. I won't go into details but it has left me fearing most men and with a diagnosis from my psychiatrist with PTSD. I fear that by confronting him, it could ruin our family. All my life, I have had to toptoe around him as to not set him off. He also physically abused me after our father left (our father would physically abuse him). His anger and meanness towards me continues. (I believe he is mad that our father did not abuse me)... anyway... my whole point of this post is to ask if A, anyone has confronted their family-member abuser.... and B, how did it change things?