Hi folks,

The internal/external thing is an example of black and white thinking in my view.

If we think that problems are always other people's fault, or always our own fault, then we can't get any kind of image of ourselves.

Also these extremes are usually 'stuck' places, with the person not able to accept some responsibility or let some responsibility go. They are definite candidates for therapy in my view, although few externalisers would seek therapy I suspect.

One of the most grotesque things to see is an externaliser and an internaliser in a relationship. Shudder!

Yes, definitely something to avoid.

Cheers, M