Yes I agree with Leed. How were things with your hubby before you started talking to this other man?? Have you both attempted to get counseling to improve your marriage? You need to think carefully as Leed said, whether you want to be in this marriage or not and don't get involved(even emotionally) with this other man. The only way this has a chance of working for the other guy, is if you have a clean legal break from your husband, but you should to give it your all first.

You can't make a logical decision of whether your marriage is salvagable or not when you're emotionally connected to the man in Virginia - you're also disconnecting your husband, the more you connect with the other man. You also need to consider the morals here - this other man is helping you cheat emotionally -what does that say about him and might he do this to you later on? I also agree with everything Leed said about the realities of a long distance relationship and the fact that you really don't know what real life is with this man. Is he also in a relationship ATM?? Give your marriage the best chance possible and in order to do this you can't have interference from the other man. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot? Please know I'm not trying to sound harsh, just trying to help you make a wise decision.