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Oh man, I can relate to people I have met (naturally who I make no point of being around) that have said those mean,insensitive words, "just get over it", and many of those "kind" not have only said that when we have lost our beloved pets, but evn when I lost my one and only best friend . . . my dad.
I can't imagine how people like this exist, grrrrrrrrr!
Another thing that blows me away too, is this same mentality many have towards mental illness, during some depressive episodes, I'd hear those same old ugly words, "you need to get over it".
Grieving for pets, just like humans, has no time limit, nor should anyone have such expectations. We all will and have individual feelings,memories, etc., no one should think if they have healed in a certain time others should too.
I think a support group would benefit someone, and if it hasn't personally, you may be able to pick up something from what someone else has felt and relate to them . . . support. Some vet's know or can direct you to some of these excellent support groups. I was deeply touched, when my parent's vet sent them a sympathy card, and written in their own hand. I feel for you, over the many years of being on this earth, I have lost so many pets, and it always hurts, I do not feel everyone becomes emotionally immuned. As the years pass, it has become easier for me to accept, but not easy on the heart, the place I hold these creatures forever.
Finding a therapist who have or has the blessing to be "owned" by their pets, are able to understand your grieving than someone who has never had or doesn't care for pets. If my therapist ever gave me that feeling, or came out and said similar words to "get over it or move on" (you know the various lame words) I'd have to set them strait(sp?) of how I am and feel about animals, my pets.
If the person still didn't get it, I'd have to find another T.
Just my opinion.
Sorry for the rambling. Please know that I feel for you, and wish you healing, and your own time to heal.
Love,
DE


BTW
It just came to mind, I have seen websites with pet loss, support forums, maybe that can be of help?
Another thing that I have often thought about, is trying to form a support group within my township and/or county.
My vet said if I do, he is more than happy to post it on the board at the counter and even refer others to such a group. I plan to look into something like that in the near future. My oldest dog is going on 10yo, so you know I'll be grieving once again for one of my children with fur.
Please take care now, and know you are in the heart of your pets as they are in ours.