I discoverd something today/tonight(i'm in uk), in chat that is a horroible concept for such a site like this. "secret msgs, whispering". I've been with p.c for 11 daysish, i love been able to post threads about mental health issues( i have alot ). I use chat to talk to people, because i could never talk in my world like i talk in chat to others, like being honest, sharing, growing. I live alone, its why i've been attracted to chat. Inside chat there have been moments of llooonnnggg silences, i never knew, that people were "whispering". Its an ok thing/tool when alot of people are in chat, but, it a wepon of paronoia, whan only a few are in chat(4-8 people). My faith has been destoyed by this concept, i dont want to leave p.c or chat, i love it, but how can i ever trust when people ara whispering. Also if any from chat like regulars (v or d), are reading this and want to protest about what i'm saying by saying "chat aint all that", why are you there all the time. Its a useful idea for a very personal convo, or an emergency, its a wepon when miss used. I send a plea to the people who run this site to regluate chat, by e.g--not alowing wispering when a lecture is going on, or only allow whispering in a particlar room. There shoud be a sign saying "you are entering a room where wispering is allowed", or "this room is whisper free", feel safe. Please, please who ever runs p.c sort this out, its not fair, it will cause paronoia, it could tip some one over the edge. Personally, i would rather go back too sticking a neddle of heroin into my arm and staring at a blank wall, than go through this. I will be back, i need chat, i need p.c, i need to comunicate in live chat with people, but its not right that wispering goes on(good or bad), it is wrong not to illustrate this pit fall. This site is a "THERAPY" site not gossip, gossip belongs in facebook. I need therapy, but how can i trust when people can whisper behind my/anyones back in live talk. Do not get me wrong, pm's are ok, but certain rooms that have wispering shoud have a big sign saying "warning you are entering a whisper zone". If that was the case i would never enter a room that alows whispering. I would only be inside whisper free zones. I am sorry p.c, but this is wrong, people get so upset, i get upset. While i write this i'm poping pills ready to log off, to go to sleep and get distance. When i awake i hope i will have some logical responses to my plea. lots of loves ..sanada...x