Firstly, this is not a therapy site, it's a support site. And even then that is not what the chat rooms are restricted to, hence the room 'social chat' and how people can make their own rooms with own topics.

I definatly think whispering has it's place. I use it quite often. It's not about just being a tool to talk about each other and be derogotary, although I'm sure that is done sometimes, it's also for when you just want to talk to one person.

Sometimes you have on going friendships, now I've also been aware people didn't like it when me and one other member who know each other well started having a conversation about something only I would know about and other members havent liked it because we've excluded them from talking because they don't know what we're on about. So surely it's better to private message each other? Also there are things I'd tell these people who are close, that I wouldn't necessarily want the world to know.

I've also used it to explain something, if someone asks a question and I don't feel like telling the world because I'm paranoid about the other members in the room that I don't know and can't trust with such personal stuff.

I guess the other option would be to spend a lot of time in private passworded rooms. Which also then gets moaned about for excluding other people.

So yeh, I can understand it makes you paranoid, but I would be really quite angry if this feature was taken away.