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May 10, 2011, 08:32 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I know this must be a painful issue for you. My granddaughter went thru the same thing, until her dad finally just stayed away. She's only 15yrs old, and she has just finally accepted the fact that he's a jerk ~ and he doesn't DESERVE her. She refuses to allow him to hurt her anymore.
Perhaps that's a stand that you will have to take too, if your Dad disappears again.  Of course it's painful. But after awhile, when these dads keep doing this time after time, you have to set up boundaries. You have to STOP allowing them to keep hurting you. Lower your expectations -- just figure that he's not coming back and then you don't be disappointed if he doesn't. These dads don't have a clue how painful this is to their kids, or they wouldn't keep doing it. But some are so selfish, maybe they WOULD keep doing it, who knows?
If your mom marries a pedophile/rapist, for heavens sakes, STAY AWAY!!! Don't go near him. Your mother should have better sense than that -- they never change! They will always keep attacking little children. It sounds like your mother needs help.
There is NEVER a good reason to use drugs!!! Drugs KILL - believe me. I have seen too many friends die from overdoses -- some on purpose, and some accidental. Drug addiction is a horrible, painful, expensive, disease. And it's progressive ~ it gets worse and worse and it goes along. I'm a recovering alcoholic/addict so I know what I'm talking about. Don't EVER use drugs to "self-medicate" because you'll end up with a life of hell. You have no idea what you will go thru just to get high. DON'T USE DRUGS!!! God bless. Hugs, Lee
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