dexter, have you ever read any relationship books. There are a lot of people who have the problem of always having people want them as a freind than as a relationship. Also, if you doing certain things don't match your personality, then has it occured to you that maybe you should take the chance and fine tune your personality, or at least enough to get into a relationship? I know that you say that you never sat around and waited for things to come to you, but on the other hand, you have gone out and made the effort of basically telling people take me as i am or forget it. That is basically the same thing as waiting for soemoen to just come to you. I understand your depression is hard, but all i'm suggesting is try reading a few books on getting into relationships, and don't be so set in your ways and go out and try a few new things. There are people who don't get married until they are a lot older than you are, so don't give up.