O.K. I'm (again) starting to understand, i totaly agree that it sould not be taken away, and its a very usful tool; but, when someone bursts into room all upset and angry because of this, i have a protective side within me that i'm not ashamed of. I love this site, i've said and i quote "p.c is the only trusted site i'm aware of". I'm sorry if my protective side is strong, but from seeing my friends destroy their homes/rooms in my other homes, or waking in the morning to find a house m8 in tears because "someone said this to so and so and so and so said this to them", i used to get confused, then i got angry inside. I'm not leaving chat, i've nowhere else to go, and i do not give up esaily. I find that p.c "is" a "support" site, but i find that p.c also "is" (for want for a better word), a "cyber therapy" site. That for mysef "is" a potential i could never imagine in my wildest dreams, its magnficent potential ( if only a few years ago i was aware of this site, some people i dearly loved would still be alive). I have had through the night chat with members, and its been theraputic, not just for myself, but for the member i'm in chat with; both agree(the member and myself). I cannot recive the help and support in the world i live in, or give it out. The help and support i give in real life is different, its mostly playing diplomat to stop people getting into trouble. So i come here to recive advice, and to help give advice. Also i come here to relax, because i'm around people like myself, and i'm able to talk freely, about life issues( which makes me stable); that is something the people i know mostly in life cannot do for me. A massive gap exsits between someone who is a personality dissorder, self harmer, confused and hurt and was massively abused(me), and someone who is not. Not many i know in life are like this( if they are they diguise it well). I dont want to hide anymore, to keep denial going will only exsasperate stuff in my life. Sorry to any who disagree. Lots of Love. sanada. x p.s , sorry full stop.