May 10, 2011 at 10:34 AM
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Originally Posted by granite1
2.i dont want to talk,it's a controle thing.i sometimes adhear to the strict rule of if you do nothing it will stop.someone talking,hitting,yelling.it works if you do nothing it will stop.
when she started talking to me about it i was totally uncomfortable with waht she was saying.
if i say nothing ,if i just dissapear and not respond what she was saying eventually has to stop and it did.it is a controle thing.
she was asking me to do something i knew i was never going to be able to do i saw her as angry and i wanted her to stop.so just dont respond .she will tire of it and stop.
most times i am just scared.
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Good insight granite! It makes total sense. I can just imagine that you have adopted this technique in the past because it worked for you.
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