I've had situations like Wepow speaks of:
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My level of trauma was severe. Borderline critical at times due to threat to life and lives of others.
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deadly weapons-used on me and around me, several times held against will, mother trying to kill herself in front of us, sexual abuse when captive, to name a few
..... all as a child.
but... I never had a time when things were going well, I mean as an adult. I've never held a job long, never have had friends, never trusted others, dissociated too much(ugh, I hate that.. it's embarrassing)
anyway...
what Dr. Muffin said on this --
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resourcing is when the client and therapist work to build coping skills and recognize triggers and when its working well, the client starts to feel able to handle things that may come up and builds confidence in their ability to bring themselves back from a flashback or engage their parasympathetic nervous system when they get into fight/flight/freeze mode or just plain recognize that they arent actually experiencing the trauma presently when they feel triggered.
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is what is steering me towards some healing.(IMO)
THIS is what I work on with T. all the time now--coping skills
, recognizing triggers
.... the walls around me now have some windows to which I can see out --- maybe someday there will be a door ....
I don't think working in therapy with trauma does any good if one doesn't have, and USE the coping skills and also recognize triggers --
the grasping of those two things- I believe to be the road to a better life.
fins