In the past I would say I waited to long to get help. I had various reasons. Maybe exploring why may be helpful. Sometimes I was denying that the depression or poor choice was getting worse or affecting others. Sometimes it was the screw it attitude...if its this bad what does it matter anyway. Then anything in between.

Also, if she's not willing to get what ever is the usual help turned to in this circumstance (thinking it might be being inpatient), is there an alternative...maybe something lighter like a support group or maybe a outpatient program.