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Originally Posted by peaches100
I have been trying to work on the issue of my relationship with my parents as a child and how that affected me. But if you have read my other thread, you will see that trying to discuss and process this issue is too painful for me.
I can't tolerate how bad it feels, and it affects me badly afterwards too.
I don't get the relief that (supposedly) i am supposed to be feeling by talking about the issue and t validating my feelings. All talking about it does is stir up unmanageable emotions that send me in to a tailspin and wear me out.
I don't undertstand what to do anymore. . .
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I think that your expectations of how it works aren't accurate. You are not supposed to feel better right away. You have to let those feelings out and it is going to hurt. You need to feel that hurt, THEN it will subside and you can move forward.
You already formed these feelings long ago and you have been carrying them around all of these years where they have been wrecking havoc for you. Let them out. Our bodies were not meant to hold emotions for very long.
I read your other thread and I visualized you as standing at the edge of the pool with your toe dipped in. You have to take the plunge if you ever want to move on with your life in this area.