That sounds like perfectionism. Perfectionism will keep you from getting anything done, as it never will be perfect. When you won't settle for less than the best way to do it, you keep stopping and not trying because there is always still something that might be better. Some things don't matter that much, and we have to let go, even if it is hard. What matters more? Finding the best way there is to organize your shoes? Or having a clean room and being able to see where your shoes are so you can rearrange them later if you feel like it?

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