Dear Lex,

Hmm - this is a hard one or at least an issue that walks a very fine line.... while no one has the right to touch you against your wishes we are talking about your lover here and yet that still does not make it any more right.

IMHO - I think the touching by your b/f while he is a wake is him trying to get you in the mood for sex (with him) - and him touching you while you are a sleep might be him trying to wake you so that you two can make love.... his way of being with you with out fear of being rejected.... but no matter what, no one should ever proceed in to any situation with out being invited by the other partner.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -