ok, Im really having a hard time with this question, and all the wonderful support and help you have all allready given, I thank you for that, from the bottom of my heart!!!

I guess the best way to do this is to get it out(I have HUGE trust issues) <font color="red"> </font> ....so please beer with me, Im gonna say what I feel comfortable with and hope someone can help:

3years ago I lost custody of my 3 children(PTSD/DID diagnosis for me) the courts felt I would not be healthy ennough to care for them(long story about that). Since this time, my daughter had an open adoption and I have legal visitation every six months. I also have legal visitation with my boys at same time, the boys are currently in a foster home, being well cared for, and we sneek visits, (keep that hush hush).

My question for advice, ideas, whatever is:How do I know Im not doing more psychological harm to my daughter who is 9 by having her see me. She gets to see her real brothers at that time too, is this healthy thing for my children or should I think about making some changes.

(I am sorry for the long post, Im real scrared right now sharing this, but Im hoping on the safety of this place, thanks all for your time, Godd Bless-Jodi)