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Originally Posted by WikidPissah
personally, that technique hasn't worked well for me, although I know it has for a lot of others here. I was getting too overwhelmed and unstable when I try remembering and/or talking about stuff and it was really hurting me. It took a long hospitalization and a different group of experts to tell me that this was not a good way for me to go. So I process symptoms, learn to handle the symptoms as they come up, and try to keep a wide space between me and my past. Yea I know it's there...big and ugly...but I don't have to look at it or touch I am learning how to live around it.
Like I said many others have been helped by processing the trauma, and I don't mean to downplay that at all, its a big brave incredible thing to do. I am just pointing out that there is a different school of thought.
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Wickedpissah,
I think your method sounds more suitable for me. My t is a trauma expert, meaning that her method is to use EMDR and other techniquest to process traumas. I'm just not sure this method works for me. But my t doesn't seem to want to give up that route. I actually sent her a message yesterday asking if she thought I'd come as far as i can in therapy and maybe it's not possible for me to change. She replied that some people can't process trauma, but they can still make changes. I think i could live with the idea of just learning to deal with the triggers when they happen, rather than try to fix the traumatic events that have caused them.
Unfortunately, my t said if i don't think her method of therapy is working for me anymore, i might want to consider a different type of therapy with someone else, and she recommended a colleague. I've been with my t for 10+ years. I don't want to leave her.
I don't know why she couldn't just try a different route with me. She has done that in the past, using DBT and CBT stuff. But she always ends up back at trauma processing. She didn't stick with the other things long enough to really see if they would work for me. I dunno. . .I think my t has always felt like my problems were past her level of expertise.
My husband says I'm making really good progress and should just continue therapy with my current t. He says I'm just reacting to a really painful session last week by wanting to quit. It's true that every so often, I seem to reach my limit of endurance and become frustrated and tired of all the effort and just want to give up.
I'm supposed to talk to my t on my session today about what specifically i want to accomplish, so we can measure my progress. I suppose we'll also talk about my other option of going to a different t. But I'm almost positive i won't do that.