Hi Marie,

My t says the problem is that my stored pain IS causing me problems in my life. I react to things in the present that remind me of my past pain -- usually when i think i am being rejected or viewed as worthless. Things my t and others say, i take them the wrong way, thinking they are trying to hurt me or push me away. But then i find out that i've understood things all wrong, and they were not doing that. This is a pattern for me, and my t says it's because i have this unprocessed trauma from my past. It keeps influencing my reactions today. So I'm not able to just "put it away" and not be affected by it. It leaves me in a quandry of not knowing what to do.

What do you do when your present life is negatively affected by your past traumas, yet you aren't emotionally strong enough to process those traumas?

That's the big question, and i don't know the answer.