My other thread on being unsettled with the workers in my home got me looking into attachment. I found more recent work on attachment. It really helped me see why some of us are avoidant and others seek out attachment. It has to do with how you view yourself and others. The table is pretty cool. I'm definitely dismissive (had okay self worth and didn't trust others).
http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=...ed=0CDkQ9QEwAg
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults
Which attachment style are you?
I also wanted to share what I learned about emotional regulation. :
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Originally Posted by Sannah
I've been reading up more on attachment. It really is fascinating. I didn't realize it before but I think that this is also where my anxiety started from. If you have a secure attachment to your caregiver you can go to her and be calmed and comforted. If you have an insecure attachment to your caregiver you cannot go to her and be calmed and comforted, hence, anxiety. There is some focus on attachment and emotional regulation. If you cannot go to your caregiver (or they come to you) and be soothed you continue to be emotionally stimulated and there isn't any regulation. If you can be soothed by a caregiver, they affect and therefore, regulate your emotions and then you learn to do the same thing and you can regulate your emotions.
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