Cool! Thanks for sharing this.

pretty sure I exhibit "fearful-avoidant" attachment... with sometimes a bit of dissmissive.
I find I often wish to attach to someone but question my worthiness and if they can be trusted... so I then try going it alone. (I can only trust myself) Think I can be very independent most times.... which makes it hard in therapy, I don't feel comfortable depending on anyone to help me-- I learned a looooooong time ago that no one will help-- people only destroy.
but....

the T. I see is changing the layout of my "little island".....
can a person really be trustworthy
Can their actions match their words!??
what a concept for me to grasp.... quite scary.

That part you copied from your other post is very interesting. Makes a lot of sense to me.
I also think once one is a parent they can sometimes find paths towards healing, as they now see that no human is infallible- we can make dumb mistakes and sometimes not even know we made such an impact on a small little life. I've realized in some situations that it was NOT intentional hurt, so I especially needed to let those instances go. does no good to dwell on those.(IMO) even if the adult never sees the damage or apologizes-- me giving it "peace" is what really matters.

I appreciate your insights and sharing Sannah, thank you.