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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Something she said is just bothering me.
We'd spoken about my ex. And I said to her, look maybe I need to take a break from dating. Maybe I just don't have as much to bring to the table as other women (I was thinking of my mental health issues, I don't know how she took it). And I was like yeah, it's just so frustrating and dumb to deal with people sometimes.
And she (who is married) was like, yeah that's a strong argument. But of course as a therapist I don't want to give up too soon.
It really really hurt me-- and I just wonder like am I being too sensitive?
Any feedback would be apprecaited.
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that IS valid argument. dating sucks and its almost just simpler to not have to deal with it. and if youre feeling like you dont "bring enough to the table," then you REALLY start to feel like youre just setting yourself up for disappointment after disappointment. yeah, its definitely simpler to just not deal with dating. avoidance works! (for a time, at least...)
i get the impression she was commiserating with you as a woman on the one hand...understanding the frustration and demoralizing nature of singleness and dating today. but on the other hand reassuring you that she didnt think you were a lost cause who should just hang up her "dating shoes" and look into monastery living.