Boiseblue, I am the wife of 20 years and my husband is the one in your position. I can't get him to open up to me anymore and I am trying really hard to be a good and loving wife. He had an emmotional affair via facebook, texts, and phone last summer, and I was able to forgive him, but I just can't seen to get through the wall he has built up around himself.... You realy need to open your heart to him and try to fall in love with him again. You have given so much of your life over to him....don't let someone you don't even really KNOW replace someone that I assume was your everything.

I want to begin couseling with my husband, but he is so closed off he won't at this time and I feel so rejected. I love him and I want him to be open to falling in love with me again....

Please consider the long term and what could be if you will let it!?!?!