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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Something she said is just bothering me.
We'd spoken about my ex. And I said to her, look maybe I need to take a break from dating. Maybe I just don't have as much to bring to the table as other women (I was thinking of my mental health issues, I don't know how she took it). And I was like yeah, it's just so frustrating and dumb to deal with people sometimes.
And she (who is married) was like, yeah that's a strong argument. But of course as a therapist I don't want to give up too soon.
It really really hurt me-- and I just wonder like am I being too sensitive?
Any feedback would be apprecaited.
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Hey lastyearisblank,
I understand why you feel hurt, It is hard to know what her response was
to, it may have been to the fact it would be better not to date as its frustrating dealing with people sometimes and she could think that as a therapist it wouldnt be right for her to give up and allow you to back away from people and give up on relationships.
My therapist made a comment a while back which really upset me in a very similar way, I felt so judged and hurt. It ended up that she agreed with what i said (which like you was something negative about myself) so that she was validating my feelings and saying she understood why i felt that way but wasnt infact criticising me, This is likely what your T was doing, saying "its a strong argument" - in other words I understand what you are saying but then she doesnt want to giev up on yourself so shes gonna keep trying to help you.
again these are just different views, you will probably need to ask her to get the exact reasons behind what she said but i understand how it can feel hurtful *hugs*
