I'm looking for some advice to help me work through some issues my significant other and I are currently experiencing.

My significant other is bipolar and I suffer from depression. Lately it just seems like the odds are stacked against us and our relationship is really strained by both of our disorders. My significant other is on medication for the bipolar which seems to work most of the time. I on the other hand currently am not taking anything for my depression. In the past all the different medications I tried didn't regulate it at all. I haven't had a bad bout in awhile with it but unfortunately as my significant other is having a difficult time with the bipolar my depression is kicking into gear. I get worried that I'm going to lose her that I start becoming clingy which makes her want to push away.

I love this girl with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with her so I'm really worried about it. I think my constant worrying is actually making things worse but I'm to the point I don't know what to do. I want to be there for her but at the same time I don't know how to be there and she's sick of me asking. How can I be there for her but give her the space she needs? I don't want to worry all the time but sometimes I have a difficult time reading her ups and downs. Sometimes when she's having a bad day I think it's something I've either done or said when in fact it has nothing to do with me.

Any advice would be most appreciated. I don't know if this type of thing is something I can get advice on this forum with. I also don't know if I should be posting in the bipolar or depression forum. I don't really have any where else to turn and I don't want to lose the love of my life.