I have nothing wrong with whispering, there are things more concerning to me than that. I've entered chat once and all they were talking about was taking drugs, barely said hello to me, and barely said goodbye when I decided to leave a minute later. I've had another member be EXTREMELY rude to me, then reported me because I retaliated by telling them not to be so damn disrespectful to me. I got a warning message, and was absolutely gutted, until I explained why I said what I did and it was looked into, there is a history of conversations in case these things happen, and after that I wasn't in trouble any more because I hadn't done anything wrong.
I understand you feeling uncomfortable with whispering, but I am insecure about what people say behind my back in general, and removing whispering won't stop that. A lot of whispering is just people having a small private conversation with someone asking them how they are, or telling someone something they would rather only share with one person. Other times it's used to quietly explain something to another person on there, for example when someone with DD came on one day I was laughing about the fact their alter had the same name as me and I had a bit of a panic wondering how someone knew what my name was, thinking someone I knew had found me. Their alter ended up attacking me and telling to shut up and that I was stupid, which got me pretty triggered and fired up. But someone ended up whispering to me that they would talk to them and not to worry, something they couldn't have said in the main conversation.
So whisper does have it's very good points. Sure there will be members who might use it for less flattering conversation about others, but it's not something I overly have a problem with. You got a problem with me toughen up and tell me yourself, not whispering to someone else.