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Originally Posted by mrcherryred87
I think my constant worrying is actually making things worse but I'm to the point I don't know what to do. I want to be there for her but at the same time I don't know how to be there and she's sick of me asking. How can I be there for her but give her the space she needs? I don't want to worry all the time but sometimes I have a difficult time reading her ups and downs. Sometimes when she's having a bad day I think it's something I've either done or said when in fact it has nothing to do with me.
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I think you might be on the right path here....Her ups and downs may not have anything to do with you. That is something good to know.
Maybe a ground rule that you won't assume that it is about you until she says it is. If she is tired of you asking, then maybe you can let her know that you will back off about asking. This will give her an opportunity to try to figure out what is going on (she may need time to process). Then she can come to you and let you know...she hasn't figured it out, hasn't figured it out maybe we can talk it through, it's not you, it's you, need more time, etc...
If she is willing to learn how to communicate this and you are willing to step back, that will be a big plus for your relationship.