No, the lesson is that some people are out of control and no matter what we do, they will remain out of control. The important thing to do is maintain safety. That has nothing to do with fear--not a "chicken" kind of fear anyway -- perhaps good, healthy fear; it's just good common sense. Kids need to learn that lesson. That is being the bigger person and not unnecessarily feeding into a bad situation and making it worse. Sometimes bad behavior does need to be ignored in order to extinguish it. This woman is looking for a fight, and if you give it to her, she has won.