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Originally Posted by Can't Stop Crying
It took me several tries to find a doctor who I felt comfortable with...now that I've found him, I will never see anyone else. He is aware of my CSA history and is very good at explaining everything he is doing and trying his best to make me as comfortable as possible. Have you looked into a Women's Only type of clinic - I've heard that doctors in those clinics are very sensitive and understanding.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. You are not a weirdo. You will be able to engage in a sexual relationship when you feel like you are ready. It is common for people dealing with SA to avoid sex. There is nothing wrong with that and I'm sure you mother acting like sex was something to be ashamed of contributes to all this.
I think your doctors response is insensitive to say the least. There are good gyno's out there - sorry you're having such a hard time with this!
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Thank you for your compassionate words, Can't Stop Crying.
I am so happy for you now that you have found the kind of doctor that is aware of your CSA history and that explains to you everything and is focused on making sure you are comfortable. Doctors like him are truly outstanding.
I can now see that there's nothing wrong with looking for the right gyno even if it takes me more tries than I expected. Yes, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin ( I should not be so harsh on myself for something that is one of the symptoms of SA).
I will look for a women's only clinic here in Miami.
The only things that worry me are: how lonely I am and how knowing so few people is adding to the difficulty of finding the right doctor. The polyp is symptomatic and I am praying that it is benign. Also adding to the stress is my mom's insistence of coming along with me to this type of appointment. Before and after the 2 appointments, she kept reminding me of how bad, terrible and difficult this was for me since I am a virgin. She went on and on comparing my body in graphic detail to the bodies of women that are sexually active and/ or have given birth. She kept harping and nagging me for not telling the second doctor that I am a virgin, and therefore at fault for his insensitivity. 
Thank you for validating what I had concluded. It means a lot to me. I had been second guessing myself lately.