I am a new member and posted my first thread on the new members forum yesterday. I have until tomorrow to let my girlfriend of 22 months know whether We will become engaged for an August wedding. I hope I am not out of bounds in this website in expounding from my previous post. I appreciate all the excellent answers and support from people who read my posts from yesterday. I have been married before and promised myself that I would take things slow in any future relationship no matter how much I love the person. She has backed off previous ultimatums which started 5 months into the relationship. I want to reassure her that I love her and I want to stay in an exclusive commited relationship with her, however, to force my hand in marriage at this point, I feel uncomfortable. After tomorrow, it may be over for us if I tell her that I am not ready for engagement at this point but to not take it personally. It concerns me that she is using this approach to get to the alter. If she is giving me a marriage ultimatum, how do I know that she wouldn't give me ultimatums of another kind after we are married? I want to make the right decision and the clock is ticking. Thanks in advance