Hey Elana,

It's ok to be mad with your T, they aren't always right and sometimes they can say the wrong thing, which can feel upsetting or make us feel angry at them.

Personally I don't know if she can really make the judgement that your parents were never good parents to you. What do you think made her think this? How do you feel about it? You say you feel defensive, would that be because she is wrong or maybe hit a sensitive issue for you?

I think many people idealise their childhood, but it doesn't mean they are unjustified to do so. For a child even something small like being bought an ice cream or having a great day at the beach can truely be amazing and just because as an adult those things may not seem like they would be...it doesn't mean that they didn't mean the world at the time! No childhood is ideal because life never is but you are allowed to have good memories and to keep them as that, just as you are allowed to have bad ones. Do you think you may be able to write down all your feelings or even just print out this post and give it to your therapist?

When you say you don't feel connected with your therapist, do you always feel this?

(((hugs))))