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Originally Posted by mrcherryred87
Thanks for the advice, it definitely sounds like something that might work. My girlfriend is the type that she would be willing to tell me outright if it was something I was doing (at least I think so). The only problem is I'm not sure when I'll get to bring it up. She has been in a mood lately where she doesn't really want to talk about what's going on because she doesn't want us to dwell on it. Maybe I'll give her a few days then mention it and see what she says. It's hard because I want to talk about it but I agree with her that we shouldn't dwell on it.
Do you know of any online support groups? I think a lot of my problem is I don't have anyone to talk to about what's been going on.
Thanks again for the advice!
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Mr. Cherryred87:
As someone who suffers from bipolar depression, I can understand your situation entirely. My wife is the one who has put up with my moods for 20 plus years, many times of which have not been pleasant.
First, I would tell you to find a good doctor who can treat your depression. You might even try cognitive behavior therapy: this is something that has helped me. Run, do not walk, to get help for yourself and for your girlfriend if she is not seeing a doctor or therapist as well.
Second, as someone who suffers from bipolar disorder with major depression, I can assure you that it is about her and not about you. Just offer your support and back away. If she goes off on you, realize that this is the illness and not your girlfriend that is talking. There are times where I just need to be left alone and I am sure that your girlfriend is the same.
Third, I would seek the help of a bipolar support group. This would benefit both of you. My wife and I are currently attending a support group in our area and have been pleased with the results thus far (we've only been attending since February).
Fourth, I would seek council from your spiritual adviser. My psychiatrist, who, unlike most in his field, is a deeply spiritual man. He has advised me that your health is like a three legged stool: one leg is physical health, one leg is mental health, and one leg is spiritual health. When you are missing any of the legs, your life becomes unbalanced. I attend my Church daily and receive the Sacraments as often as I can. Both of these help me tremendously to manage my illness.
I know that with a comprehensive approach, which is what these diseases require, you can find peace and happiness with your girlfriend.
