(((swimjim))) - I'm sorry it's over, but good for you for being strong and taking a stand. No one should be pressured into marriage and her reaction is proof, this was the right choice. If a person wants to give ultimatums, they should be prepared for it backfiring on them. This kind of person would always be in the drivers seat for the whole partnership, if the unwilling victim let it happen. Sending good vibes and strength your way.