Sky, I can't answer your question, except to say that I don't think I've ever seen anyone I know actually accept a disability in any meaningful way. Pretty much everyone has continued to expect to be able to do more than, in fact, she could do.

I think it's the nature of the beast. I also think it has a good side, because it does go along with rejecting complacency, and with continuingly challenging oneself. As long as you're not injuring yourself, either by trying to do something physical that will cause additional injury, or just by expecting things that are impossible and then suffering emotionally, I think it's OK to have at best a partial acceptance. Use reason, but I think that emotional acceptance may not be truly possible.

I hope that helps some, Sky. I'm in a similar position, although most of my problem is psychiatric, so I know it's hard to draw the line on my ability. Good luck.