I posted this in the new member section but think I would get more help here. I hope it is ok.

My wife was depressed for about 1 year before we started counseling. She had been in denial for the entire year and was up until a several weeks ago when she finally got put on Cymbalta. It has been working wonders now as she has lost weight and has the energy she did when we got married 7 years ago. But now she says she no longer loves me and wants a separation.

Now the part of the story I regret. During the time she was depressed she basically lived on the couch and gave up everything she loved. At first, I thought it would go away so I just ignored it. A few months into it, I started getting mean to her. I thought it was some "tough love." I had spoken to family doctors about her and when they would approach her about it, she would switch doctors.

After a few times of this, I started getting really mean. Saying things I would normally never say, doing things I would never normally do. All I wanted was to shock her into seeing what was going on. Although it never happened.

Finally one day she said she wanted a divorce. This shocked me. I asked to go to counseling and she agreed. It took awhile but she finally admitted she had a problem and got on the Cymbalta. The whole time she was willing to work it out even though she said she no longer loved me for the way I treated her. I thought she would see that it was the depression talking, and want to get back to the way we were.

Now today, she sends me an email saying she wants to get away from me for awhile and see if she feels anything. I am devastated. We were working so hard I thought, went on a few trips and found new hobbies together. I am waiting for her to get home from work after I left my work early because I am sick to my stomach.

Of course there is more to this and I will answer any questions honestly. I need opinions and advice on what to do. She is still the love of my life and I pushed her away and have no one or nothing to blame except for myself.