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zooropa · May 14, 2011, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by dizgirl2011

Hey hun, I feel I started you thinking more about bpd when I asked you if you had it as I seen some of the traits in you that i see in myself

....im sorry. Try not to focus so much on the BPD, it can help explain some things but in some ways it's not good to focus on it because then it makes you feel like you cant change things which is wrong..you can, it can happen

I think it's understandable that it may take a good while for your relationship with T to heal after all the water that has gone under the bridge. Can you tell your T how you feel about the Rupture affecting things for you now? It's not really a bpd thing at all this, its just kind of what happens when we have had a bit of a falling out with someone- it's hard to get over and forget the bad things sometimes but it will happen if you give it a chance hun.

I think you need to talk to her about it in the next session

diz, I forgot to say, my thoughts and feelings about bpd were in no way triggered by your or anyone else's posts. Really.

My T has never been very focused on talking about bpd, and so I haven't either. I figured I am the way I am and I will work on changing that, giving it a label isn't particularly effective. Except in this situation, when I am sort of slapped upside the head with behavior that I seem unable to control or to change. That makes me start to wonder why, and that leads me to reading more and the more I read the more I see myself in textbook definitions of bpd.

anyway. It's not you, and I don't want you to feel bad or guilty.