Wow. This scenario is almost the exact of mine. My wife led a very hectic life going to school full time and working two jobs. After she graduated, she fell into a deep depression even though she was working at her "dream job." She too, quit being intimate and eventually moved into another bedroom in the house. She spent every free second in front of the TV.

I finally got her into counseling and the first counselor said we just need to go back to the way things were. She quit going after he said that. She filed divorce and made several attempts to move out but would always come back crying. I convinced her to see another therapists and we have been going regularely. They put her on a depression med and she has been improving. Although she still claims to not love me anymore and just wants to start a new life somewhere else.

It is very difficult for me having to deal with someone saying they have no feelings for you. I have begun to slip into a depression myself and leave the house less and quit going with my friends since. I am still hopeful she will remember the great life we had made together before this all happened and want to continue forward with it.

I believe I can understand your dilemma and wish you all the best. There are many times a week when I just want to tell her to leave and never come back, but I don't. It's like she is another person some nights. And then other nights are great.

Just keep your own needs and feelings in check and try to find a balance for yourself. It will be rough. I wish I could help you and also wish their were easy answers.

Best of luck to you.