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_Sky said:
Now I'm the one who doesn't know where this goes... it doesn't seem to fit in any particular forum (health support, depression, ptsd, psychotherapy)...

HOW does one "accept" their disability?

I've been disabled due to an "industrial accident" for umpteen years. I have been in therapy nearly all that time: heavy duty stuff...

One of the underlying problems I seem to have is that I haven't "accepted" my disability. I think I understand that by not accepting it (somehow) I continue to have expectations/hopes of doing and becoming... which what? I won't ever again do or become???

I know, in my mind, that I can't do things, that I live with constant pain also. I have limited my expectations (I think) and my calendar down to almost nothing... and think I understand it is just the way things are...

I don't always feel terrible because I "can't" do. I understand that others can't understand all I go through, and I don't make excuses to them anymore, just don't offer, or just don't say anything but,"I'm unable to."

There's more...but can't think of it all right now.

Is there anyone out there who is disabled (unable to work, unable to be physically active, unable to think somedays, having to spend most of their time taking care/responding to their disability... etc) who can help me understand where the line is for "accepting" it( and where I seem to be) ? If where I'm at is not accepting, I am clueless as to be accepting of it.

I have begun to really believe that, maybe due to my minimal brain damage that occurred in the accident, I can't "get it" and never will make that connection? My T hasn't agreed with that. I just can't seem to understand what "accepting" means...

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I'm not but my mother is!
She's got a really bad back...

how do you accept that? You don't i guess... The way i see it in mum is she tries to do what she can (she does to much somethimes) and tries just you know not get to frustrated with it (witch happens at times to).

I know how hard it is trust me i've seen my mum strungle since i can rember...

It's really sad to hear you've got this problem! I get frustrated over it to a lot since i see my mum suffering and i can't help her at all!