SadJames,

You sound just like the exact opposite of my situation. In other words I sound like you and my husband sounds like your wife. He has always gotten along better with women, he spends time on his phone texting...I don't even know, I just know it isn't me and that causes me no end of anxiety. I can not get my husband to start therapy with me, so I guess there you have one up on me, but try not to give up on your relationship and keep trying to be supportive and understanding and keep working on it as long as she is willing. I will keep you in my thoughts and I hope the best for you!!