Hi kitty,
If you want you can reassure your friend that your abscense of communications has nothing to do with her and that you just have not felt like talking much to anyone due to too many things going on in your life right now that you'd prefer not to go into. Let her know that you still feel the same towards her as your friend (if you do, and want to let her know), this way she'll realize it really has nothing to do with her as to why you haven't spoken with anyone for awhile. When I was having problems here,it was about a year I did not bother with anyone, did not call the usual people that I use to, it was just aas if I had disappeared, emotionally I did sort of. In time I started to recieve phone calls and return to family gatherings like the "good old times", and everyone was good about it, no one was hurt or annoyed by my "abscense" over the year or two, they came to realize I needed my space and time. I don't know your personal relationship with you and you friends, but I am sure they can understand and if they care enough for you they'll wait for you and time to pass without any expectations of detailed explanations. The only thing if you find yourself tempted to snap at them if they seem to pry for info. you wish not to disclose, try to understand their curiosity and just be a little gentle as you tell them "you wish not to discuss it right now". I was happy later on that I did this, saved me from hurting those who really were people that meant well, sincere people, not nosey busy bodies. Kitty, I hope this issue will come to pass soon for you, meanwhile I am wishing you well with what ever you decide to do. I am sending you some *hugs* and *smiles*
Take care,
"darkeyes"