I feel that way too. He has told me that He still loves our kids and me, but that he is just tired of trying and that there is nothing I can do to help.

I also feel like he is waiting until I am strong enough to take him leaving me, because I have damaged thing beyond fixing.

Sometimes when we have our....arguements I say things that are really hurtful, and I have just recently realized that I sometimes say these things trying to force him to get mad back and finally tell me what is going on in his head.

I have told him, that I feel he is dealing with some depression and that I can not accept that things might end between us while he is in his current state of mind....This of course did not have the impact I had thought it would.

I sometimes get so frustrated and try things that I know won't work, without considering the consequences. I have always been very jealous, and early in our relationship, I think that my husband really enjoyed it, and he would often intentionally provoke my jealousy, but now it no longer holds any joy for him, but I have been "trainded" and I am working really hard to retrain myself so that I stop irritating him with my constant reactions.

I have also shared with him, that I sometimes feel that maybe he is still "trained" to provoke my jealousy, by doing things he knows will cause my reactions..... These are all things that I think we could really benefit with changing in counseling, if he might agree to go with me.

But like I said earlier, just keep working on it as long as she will continue to go with you. And if whe is still dealing with depression herself, than try to be patient and maybe she will become more open as time passes....or at least I hope she will be.