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If a doctor orders that your mom needs physical therapy than it will be provided, and that goes for someone coming in and helping.

Please don't blame yourself, you really are doing the best that you can. As far as the turnover in assistance for elderly care, well caring and dealing with the elderly can be very difficult and many people often leave that work. Due to the fact that there may require some lifting and many times the elderly are very angry and agressive. Doctors will drop them too if they do not cooperate as there are so many they will only work the the ones the have a better attitude. Even those that care for the elderly have to be careful about their attitude in dealing with doctors. Caregivers and health advocates have to be very patient and it is very difficult.

The fact that you often wait and they do not always show up etc. is not unusual so don't let it get to you. Be prepared to accept them when they can come and do your best to make them feel welcome and if they feel this way, well, then they will be more likely to come back and work with you within a schedule. If you get angry and your mother also has an attitude, well, think about it, would you want to go to someones house where you knew you were going to have a bunch of anger and frustration taken out on you?

Dont ever worry about the house and all that other stuff, caregivers understand the demands and they really don't care. As far as feeling like you cannot connect with friends, well , don't blame them too much. Often people don't understand your situation and find you overwhelming as they don't know what to say or may even fear that you may start asking for help they cannot provide. It has nothing to do about you personally. I don't know if there are support groups for this in your area, try to see if you can find one.

TRY TRY TRY to take time for yourself. You do deserve that and need it for your own sanity.

Let us know how you make out, many good people here that will listen.

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