Hi,

I think my wife may have some sort of BP. I have considered this before but believed that I didn't see the cycling symptoms. Now I am not sure. Several friends and family have voiced v.arious concerns over the years. Not just judgments but real concerns.

- Married for 11 years.
- She has had numerous affairs. Both physical and emotional. Online and real. Six that I know of.
- First affairs I found out about and could confirm were six years ago and involved physical affairs with four guys.
- Recently confirmed at least one emotional affair and suspect other promiscuity but cannot confirm.
- Have identified severe and uncontrollable drinking binges. These have been an issue since her college years for sure (she is now in early 40's). They are however inconsistent, fairly irregular, and spread out.
- several of the binges have turned physically violent on her part over the years.
- Hoards stacks of paper, and other stuff... our house is stacked high with these things.
- For the 11 years we have been together she has "lost" every job she had and been unemployed almost half the time. Laid off, someone was after her or didn't like her... there is always a "good" reason.
- Seems like she often has "co-worker issues" at work.
- When she does work, she is well paid (100k range).
- complains of isolation often.
- takes antidepressants for depression and generalized anxiety.
- arguments and discussions "always" turn into a circular maze. Of course not "always" but with consistency.
- Money issues are rampant but to be honest that is me too.
- We've had extensive joint therapy which has not been too helpful. it appears to me that every time we discuss anything about her it is always turned around into how i have contributed to her actions.
- She will not lead nor will she follow. seems like she always takes the path "down" instead of up. If you know what I mean.
- I have currently proposed divorce. don't really want to divorce but can't live like this.
- We have a 7-Year-Old. He is extremely distraught at the current situation.
- He picks up on her emotional insecurities very well and is careful to try to not "upset" her. He loves her so much of course.
- Seems like there has always been excessive drama one way or another. Always some "emergency-situation" to attend to.

I would like to get her to properly diagnosed but am pretty sure that any suggestion i make with cause a blow-up.

Advise much appreciated!