Thanks so much for the thoughts and input, Lynn. I really appreciate it.

I'm a worrier by nature. Had a few bouts with anxiety over the years. First serious girlfriend, graduating college, changing careers, etc. Most of the time I get through it and keep going. This time, I feel like I'm worried about how it can/will irreparably affect my relationship. I've read forums where an issue like this can end a relationship, and I don't want that to happen.

I totally see what you mean. When I can totally relax, and I'm not focused on performing, we have great sex. I think it's the repetition of the worry and anxiety that makes it worse, just like you said. It progressively affects my intimacy. When I kiss her just to kiss her, it's nice. When I kiss her, thinking that we're going all the way, I lock up. So it seems like what you're saying is to piecemeal myself back into it.

I'll make the suggestion to keep going even if I lose it. I do want to please her (that's always been my goal), so it's a downer when my issue stops the whole thing. I see the disappointment on her face when it happens, so I hope she can be open to this idea. There have been a couple times when we have just kept going and it's been fine. I just have to trust that.

Appreciate the advice regarding porn. I definitely don't watch it all the time. Maybe once a week. I'll even cut back on that.

All in an effort to get out my own head. Your detailed response has definitely helped. Any other thoughts, please don't hold back!!

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